MKMMA – Week 23

This week the MKMMA Webcast was so incredible. We have come so far and learned so much, and all so life-changing…I could write a book about it…but someone already has.

The latest and one of the most profound: The Law of Least Effort

“When your internal reference point is your spirit, when you are immune to criticism and unfearful of any challenge, you can harness the power of love and use energy creatively for the experience of affluence and evolution.”

There are three practices that help us to achieve this law and I will summarize them as I understand them here:

Acceptance: I will know that this moment is as it should be. I accept as they are, not as I wish they were.

Implementing this is bringing me peace, ease, joy. There is nothing I can say or do otherwise, just accept…it is calming, a relief.

Responsibility: I will not blame others or anything not even myself for the situation, it is just an opportunity to make it into a greater situation.

This has been so freeing, it allows me to just say, now what can I do with this, not what someone else should do and didn’t do, what can I do to move forward with this and make it a better situation or outcome, the “If it’s going to be, it is up to me” slogan.

Defenselessness: I will not defend my point but be open to all views, attached to none.

This is about having no opinions, which I have been doing for a while sometimes with success, sometimes not. When I do life is easier, smoother. It is wonderful being fully present to others and being active in listening to them. And always showing gratitude to the person sharing for their views without comment about what I think. I can see the joy in others when they feel they are being heard and understood and if they ask if I do understand, I just repeat their views.

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MKMMA – WEEK 22a

Week 23, we had a break from our weekly webinar and it has been a little bit of a relief since there has been so much that we have learned that I have had a hard time keeping up. I have loved every minute of it. I have learned the most amazing tools that have had a positive impact on me, which are invaluable. Every week the MKMMA experience added another tool that in and of itself can have transforming effects but combining all of them, it has been powerful.

MKMMA – WEEK 22

This has been a whirlwind of a week and it is only getting busier. I had a full week scheduled because I am going away with 20 women next week on a long planned vacation, so having two or more days to be silent hasn’t happened and probably isn’t going to happen. So I have been wondering why did I create this scenario for myself. Did I want to miss this requirement? I have had a history of not completing things I start, but had seemed to be breaking that cycle. So is this something else I won’t finish? As we are approaching the conclusion of the MKMMA, I am worried.

I have spent a few hours here and there off the grid so to speak, only to realize I talk to myself a lot (and out loud)…and had a very hard time not doing it…does that mean I am crazy?

I am feeling like I am not being open enough to the possibilities and wondering “What am I pretending not to know?”. I truly feel in my heart of hearts that I want to do this, am I not seeing opportunities? Another realization that has become apparent to me is that I tend not do the things I truly desire and want but spend my time doing what I have to, need to, suppose to, or work, work, work (of course if I did work as much as I am alluding to you would think I’d be richer?)

Shutting off the phone and computer is easy stuff, it is the people I have to come in contact with each day in business and now in pleasure that is the hard part. Ok, I am now shutting off until at least 11 am tomorrow with my first appointment. Let’s see if I can keep my mouth shut too!

MKMMA – WEEK 21

The past two weeks, we were to look at how we can use Fear, hurt, Anger, Guilt and/or Unworthiness to expand our comfort zone..

This week when one of these feelings came over me, I had an opportunity to see how it affected me. To look at what I could do with it, how could I use these uncomfortable feelings as tools to expand my comfort zone. It seems the more I focused on them as to how I could use them, the feelings of anger seemed not to be so important, it lost its hold on me. It was more of a “now what”? So I had a choice to wallow in that anger and to go around and tell the world the injustice that was done to me (to be a victim again) or I could take this opportunity to see where I could use this as a tool to expand my comfort zone. What did that mean? What was I suppose to do with this anger? What I realized is that I had a choice in having this emotion. The situation wasn’t to my liking or what I wanted…so what? I didn’t have to be angry, I could not like what happen but still continue living my days in joy, love, and kindness. Knowing that there was something that made me angry gave me an opportunity to see what I had done to contribute to this situation? What was my part in it? How did I want to feel and act and be? What did I really want to have happen? This was just another emotion like any emotion, uncomfortable or comfortable, not good, not bad, just an emotion.

So I then had the opportunity to apply this observation to this person as I did to myself, not as good or bad, an action that maybe wasn’t intended to hurt me or cause anger. I had a choice to go into my heart and ask the hard questions. What are they thinking? Are they acting with anger, fear, guilt, hurt, unworthiness? Is there something I can say to soften their pain, their emotion, to bring peace to this situation. I had a choice as to how I was going to respond or react. I could come from happiness, joy, love or I could come from anger and righteousness.

I chose happiness. Maybe the reason I didn’t get what I want is because this outcome is for the greater good, something that I can’t see yet. That the truth will prevail and although I feel I want what I want, is it really for the greater good? Is it just ego?

What I do know is that I spent a week joy filled and loving with gratitude instead of wasted in anger and hate…and seeing that gal in the mirror was a whole lot easier as a result of this new awakening.

MKMMA WEEK 20

As I read the words in Og Mandino’s Scroll V “I will live this day as if it is my last.”, I am so bothered with the words wondering if I did know that today was my last day, would I be doing what I am doing today? Honestly, I wouldn’t, I would be surrounding myself with the ones I love, holding onto to them, making sure they truly know how much I love them, how much they mean to me and all they have given to me.

But I believe that this is taking the words at face value, too literally. This is more about making the most of the day as if it could be your last but isn’t, to not waste it on reliving yesterday regrets or successes or project into tomorrow’s possibilities or worries. I love this part, to stay in this day no matter what I am doing, to do it the best I possibility can. I am challenged to do that each day, live today and today only because all we truly have is right now, we don’t know what tomorrow will bring. And to do my best. Have I been doing this? Honestly, I am not sure. I have a very bad habit of judging myself that it isn’t ever enough, whatever it is I do that I could have done more.

But all of that is changing through the MKMMA, which has taught me to live each day in kindness (to others and to myself), without opinions, thinking positively (no negative thoughts), to live in gratitude, telling myself that I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, happy, harmonious (and I add confidence and courageous), to imagine and dream about a reality for myself that I truly want and to act as if it already is. When I look at this list, I am living this way and am making every effort to make sure my love ones know how much they mean to me and holding them close, so maybe I am living each day as if it is my last.

MKMMA – Week 19

I started to write this blog last night and then really didn’t know what to write, this morning, I have so much to write about.

First I’ll start with my new favorite mantra, “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, happy and courageous.” I actually am starting to believe it. I had an ah-uh moment. Recently I traveled alone to another city (big city, lots of lights, gambling, etc.), which is not my city of choice. I’m a country girl, I like to be outside in nature, riding my bike, walking my dogs, going to the beach. This city is so out of my element it is beyond words. Well usually when I travel to a place like this, I am totally petrified…well I am happy to report…not this time.
I didn’t realize until it was all over with, but there wasn’t one moment where I felt fear (well maybe a little bit when 4 women started a fist fight about 5 feet away from me as I walked through the lobby, actually casino, of the hotel to get to the restaurant for breakfast), but other than that, I slept like a baby, I travelled to and from the event without even giving it a second thought. Ok, writing, makes it sound like nothing, but for me, HUGE!! (MKMMA thank you!)

Secondly, I love what Mark J showed us in week 19 video of the postures, and faking it until you make it! This is so amazing what Amy Cuddy in a TED talk of June 2012 http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html is worth watching to create success in your life. I haven’t been doing this, but am now! It is making me feel more confident, stronger.

Lastly, reading the Obits and asking the three questions has made realized how lucky, how fortunate, how happy I am in my life and how much I want to live it to the fullest, living it large, and with enthusiasm. All we have learned and implemented in MKMMA has been such a gift, so grateful!

MKMMA – Week 18

I am very late for my blog, since last week, I travelled 1500 miles to spend the week with my family on a long planned vacation. The week before our anticipated departure my boss decided I should travel across the country to an industry trade show (that I usually don’t attend) for the same week of my vacation. It became a major crisis in our family. To say the least it challenged me in many ways, and has made me look very hard and deliberately at my relationship with this employer, with how I think of myself and what I have allowed, and also what it is I truly want my life to look like.

In reading Og Mandino’s Scroll V, I have found it be as scary and challenging as this past week…to live each day as if it my last. I have questioned everything about my life. And what I have realized is that I am still deep in the cement. I look at what I have been doing and I think I was expecting results (microwave version) to happen quickly and easily. Why? The old way has had 50+ years to get there, why do I think that the changes will happen in a few short weeks/months? I did expect all the old behaviors to just be gone forever. Have I seen changes, most definitely. Have they come as expected, not always, but they are coming and it is all good. I have looked at the obstacles that presented themselves (and trust me there were many in only 7 days and not just with my employer), as opportunities, to embrace all the adversity that came my way as a potential for growth in awareness, in my behaviors, actions, thoughts and desires. And to look at it all without judgment. To know that I didn’t like or want what was happening to me, but gave me an opportunity to get clear on what it was that I did truly want and desire. I have a choice.

I am learning and growing and changing, becoming more aware, more grateful for the problems and the blessings. Adversity, problems, challenges, difficulties are probably the biggest blessings of all!

MKMMA – Week 17hj

MKMMA, what a blessing, what a gift, what an experience. I am so grateful.

When I read the words in my blueprint builder that says, “I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others.”, it finally dawned on me that Mark J, Davene, Trish, Heather are serving me! I am learning that I can create my life the way I want it to be and I will attract those people and resources that are needed. And poof, they show up! How lucky am I to one, have had this opportunity be made known to me; two, to be given the chance to participate in it; and three, to be open to receiving the messages and teachings. I feel so blessed that I am open to the idea that we can create the life of our dreams, we can change the world, that what we think about, we bring about! I feel so lucky and grateful that I was in a place to receive and that the teachers appeared!

This past week, I realized that I was forgetting to keep my opinions to myself, that I was letting negative thoughts permeate my mind and life, that I was forgetting to be as kind as I possibly could as well as look for kindnesses. As a result things weren’t going as well as they could and challenges kept presenting themselves. Then I read in Mandino, scroll IV, “…that problems, discouragements and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise.” It made me appreciate the challenges, it made me look at what I was doing in my life or even better what I had done, had tolerated, had allowed to be treated by others. This has created a growth opportunity for me, a chance to be a better me, an opportunity to really love me, to truly look in that mirror and say “I love you” and actually feel it deeply and probably for the first time ever.

MKMMA Week 17

Courage…

the ability to face danger, difficulty, uncertainty, or pain without being overcome by fear or being deflected from a chosen course of action.

Example; She showed great courage throughout this difficult time.

Synonym: Bravery, guts, nerve, valor, daring, audacity,

“Courage is the most important of all virtues, because without it we can’t practice any other virtue with consistency.” – Maya Angelou

Courage, my chosen word for  week 3…so far I haven’t seen it too much, as well as struggled with recognizing it.  The quote above from Maya Angelou made me think that I possibly should have done this one first, especially since I am having such a difficult time and the idea that it is needed to be able to practice all other virtues.
But I had a major breakthrough yesterday with my current employer.

” It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to your enemies, but a great deal more to stand up to your friends.”  – Dumbledore, Harry Potter

Or in this case, your boss or better yet, my boss.  I have worked for this person for 26 years and have a very long history of being a doormat.  Always doing what was asked, without question; helping out others whenever needed without being asked; doing my work with excellence; creating harmony in my workplace; being agreeable; kind; appreciative; tolerant; patient.  Working my job consistently without the tools necessary to truly excel; being left out of the loop of key communications; not receiving any incentives or directions with only a small salary increase in last 17 of the 26 years.  (Not that I didn’t ask, but would get “yessed” to death and nothing would change.)

Yesterday was different.  I was asked to do something again that felt to me like I was being dis-honored, dis-respected and dis-valued, but this time I didn’t accept it.   It took a lot of courage but I spoke up with assertiveness and love. Was I afraid, yes, but I did it anyway.

“speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.”- Maggie Kuhn, Social Activist

I knew in my heart that this was the right thing to do, that this was my truth and as long as I said it with conviction, with honesty, with love and kindness, that I was doing what was right for me, for my integrity, for my self-respect, and self-esteem.

“Courage is not living without fear. Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.”- Chae Richardson

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” – Ambrose Redmoon

This time it was more important for me to say what I needed to say, without fear of the consequences.
“No man will succeed unless he is ready to face and overcome difficulties, and is prepared to assume responsibilities.”- William J. H. Boetcker

I did get a pay raise, it was implemented today (he also gave one to all the employees in the company).  There were a number of decisions reached for changes which will happen over the next several weeks and months, for the betterment of all concerned.

But the best part is I have changed, there is no going back, and this is all because of  MKMMA.  I am growing, I am winning, I will persist, I will win.

I am nature’s greatest miracle.  I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, happy and courageous.  I walk tall among men and they know me not, for today, I am a new man with a new life.

“The courage of life is often a less dramatic spectacle than the courage of a final moment, but it is no less a magnificent mixture of triumph and tragedy. A man does what he must- in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures-and that is the basis of all morality.”
– John F. Kennedy

MKMMA – Week 16

Time seems to be passing quickly now with the Master Key Master Mind Alliance and I truly want to get the most out of it and love the growth which is coming with all that we are doing.

One of the latest addition (one I am loving doing) is the Franklin Makeover. This is an idea from Benjamin Franklin (smart man). He had 13 characteristics that he wanted to develop in himself, so he took one characteristic for one week and attempted to observe it in himself and in others. Our task for the next 13 weeks is exactly that with the following 13 characteristics:

1) Decisiveness
2) Kindness
3) Self-control
4) Enthusiasm
5) Specialized Knowledge
6) Well Organized
7) Imagination
8) Taking Initiative
9) Discipline
10) Pleasing Personality
11) Persistence
12) Courage
13) See God in Others

First we put them in the order by the one we need to work on the most to the one we need to work on the least. The only thing is that Week 2 and Week 13 are assigned to us.

My first choice for week one was decisiveness. As the week started I was seeing decisions being made everywhere and I began to think, maybe decisiveness shouldn’t have been my first choice. Then I realized the fact that I even had that thought, well it was comical.

And now in week 2, collectively as a group we are to work on Kindness and to post each day at least two kindnesses that we either observed or performed. In addition, we were to do two kindnesses that should not be found out by the person we are doing it for and make someone else’s job easier. This has not been that easy to do something for someone without them finding out. I actually feel I am a pretty nice person that I am always trying to be kind, whether driving on the road, with friends, with family, always looking for ways to help and be kind to others. But, the first thing I have noticed in doing this exercise is that I like being acknowledged when I do something for someone else. I like hearing “thank you”. Ok, without that what has happened is that I realized I really like doing nice things, I like how I feel, I like the warm feeling and the smile on my face that comes from doing something kind. It’s fun, trying to figure out how many things I can do that are kind, and especially the ones without being found out. I like the sneaky way of getting creative with it and it doesn’t have to be costly or even complicated.

The best pay off in all of this is how smoothly my life has been, in my home, at my work and inside my body…less stress, feeling calmer, content, happier. It is amazing the end result of doing something as simple as trying to be kind in all my endeavors can make a difference in my life. What a concept. Amazing!